How to Find the Right Strap-On: A Guide for Beginners

What is a strap-on?

A strap-on is a sexual device usually consisting of a harness worn around the waist or hips, with a dildo or other phallus-shaped attachment to the front. It is created to stimulate penetrative sex and provides the wearer the ability to perform the act regardless of their biological sex or gender.

Anyone can wear strap-ons, but they are most commonly used by people who want to explore different roles in the bedroom, such as those in LGBTQ+ communities. Of course, straight couples are also welcome to explore pleasures with strap-on activities. Many people choose strap-ons to enjoy different sensations or explore relationships' power dynamics. They can also be used in intimate moments where one partner might not be able to engage in penetration due to physical limitations or preferences.

Different types of strap-ons

Before you can decide on the strap-on you will enjoy the most, you need to understand what kind of strap-ons exist in the first place. You also need to find a place where you can purchase quality models. Lucky for you, our store is always open and welcomes all realistic and fantasy dildo enthusiasts. Don’t forget, most of our sex toys, no matter how odd, can be attached to harnesses and used as strap-ons.

Harness types

• Basic harness: This simple and affordable design usually has adjustable straps that secure the dildo in place. It offers a functional, no-frills option and is excellent for beginners or those seeking practicality.
• Fully adjustable harness: With multiple adjustment points for the waist, thighs, and sometimes the dildo, the fully adjustable harnesses provide a more tailored fit. They are suitable for all body types and preferences.
• Thong-style harness: These are designed for minimal coverage and are ideal for those seeking freedom of movement.
• Brief-style harness: Offers more support and usually resembles a pair of briefs with built-in straps that hold the dildo.

Harness materials

• Leather: A classic, durable material known for its long-lasting quality and timeless appeal. Leather harnesses offer a secure and firm fit. However, they require maintenance and care.
• Neoprene: This synthetic rubber-like material is often used in harnesses for its flexibility and comfort. It is breathable, lightweight, and provides a snug fit without causing discomfort.
• Nylon: Lightweight, durable, and easy to clean, nylon is a standard material for strap-on harnesses. It’s often used with other materials like leather or silicone to enhance comfort while providing structural support.

Dildo types

• Realistic dildos: These models are designed to mimic the look and feel of a human penis. If you are looking for the most realistic dildos, you should check out Mr. Hankey's. We have all the most realistic models, anything from typical penis toys to BBC dildos.
• Fantasy dildos: If you prefer to be creative and naughty with your choices, then fantasy dildos are for you. Of course, we have a ton of adult fantasy toys for all your naughty needs. Anything from dragon dildos to monster dildos. You name it!
• Small dildos: There are tons of smaller options if you prefer. They are great for beginners or those who are not the biggest penetration fans but still enjoy the sensation.
• Large dildos: Are you seeking more intense sensations? Our collection of giant dildos is all you’ll ever need. Our sex toys are known to be massive and will hit the spots you were never able to reach!

Interchangeable vs. fixed designs

• Interchangeable dildos: Imagine being able to fix any dildo you want to the harness you are currently wearing. Our mood often changes. Sometimes you are in the mood for a horse cock dildo and other times you want to have sex with Drew Sebastian Well, that is what interchangeable dildos allow you to do. You have one harness that can hold many dildos.
• Fixed dildos: These are permanently attached to the harness. The dildo cannot be swapped out, which does make the strap-ons more convenient for regular use.

Finding the right size and fit

You need to make sure that the size fits you, and we are not talking about the dildo itself. However, the harness wearer must ensure that the harness fits them well. Otherwise, they will feel uncomfortable during the entire session.

If you want your harness to fit comfortably, you must accurately measure the waist and hips. You can use any tape, but it is always recommended to use a soft measuring tape since wrapping it around your waist and hips is much easier. Always check out the measuring guide provided when purchasing a harness.

Adjustable or non-adjustable

Adjustable harnesses are the ideal choice because they can accommodate a wide range of body types and are designed to fit both small and larger sizes. The adjustable harness allows you to adjust the straps around the waist and thighs, and they are known to be much more fit.

Non-adjustable harnesses are also an option and tend to be much cheaper. However, they are also more restrictive.

Comfort and support

You must be comfortable while wearing your harness strap-on. This is because the harness is supposed to be worn for long periods. So, look for harnesses with padded waistbands and soft, breathable materials.

Ease of use

Proper maintenance is essential for hygiene and longevity. This goes for both the dildo and the harness you are wearing. This is why you should learn which lube can and cannot be used with certain materials. After a proper clean, you should store all components in a dry, clean place to prevent bacterial growth.

Beginners should consider wearing a strap-on for practice. Adjustable strap-ons are a better option since they can be fitted just right around their waists and hips.

Communicate with your partner

Open communication is key to all relationships, which means communicating about almost everything. So, you should discuss preferences, boundaries, and comfort levels before buying or using strap-ons. Let your partner ask questions and express any concerns they might have.

When using the strap-on, check on your partner to see if any adjustments need to be made. This is especially important if you opt for any of our massive dildo toys. We have a lot of fisting dildos and models that are just huge! This is great for many but can be too much for some. To stay safe, always check on your partner and their boundaries.

Tips for beginners

Practice and experimentation are crucial. Using a strap-on for the first time can feel unfamiliar, but it takes time to practice. Try different positions and angles to find the most comfortable one. You can always experiment alone to get used to the movement.

You should also start with a smaller, lightweight dildo and an adjustable harness for the best fit. Try to avoid complex designs first. Once you are comfortable, you can explore with larger and more advanced options. Don’t worry, Mr. Hankey’s Toys is always here to provide you with giant dildos!

Use lubricant generously! There is no such thing as using too much lube, especially when it comes to anal sex. Regardless of your preferences, sexual orientation, gender identity, etc., using lube is always recommended. This enhances comfort and pleasure! Water-based lubes are always the safest choice.

Be patient. This is a learning curve, and it will take practice. If the harness feels odd, the adjustable straps can help make it snug. Just give it time and practice. You will eventually become incredibly skilled!

Bottom Line

Finding the right strap-on is a personal journey that requires careful consideration of the type, materials, sizing, and comfort. So, if you are a beginner, try starting with a simple, adjustable setup and gradually exploring different options. It is essential that the harness feels secure and comfortable so that you and your partner can have an enjoyable experience.

Proper maintenance and hygiene are also crucial. Cleaning the strap-on thoroughly after each use and storing it correctly will extend its lifespan and keep it safe for continued use. Lubrication is another key factor in making the experience smoother and more pleasurable.

Getting used to a strap-on takes time, and experimentation is part of the process. There’s no need to rush into complex designs; start small and adjust as needed. Once comfortable, you can experiment with all the dildos at Hankey’s Toys!